Here is the all-too-familiar story of Monica. She and Katie have been friends since kindergarten. Monica loves being around her when she's nice. But there are times when Katie can be just plain mean. And Monica doesn't understand why.
Monica is a target of relational aggression, emotional bullying among friends who will use name-calling and manipulation to humiliate and exclude. But with a little help from a supportive adult—her mother—Monica learns to cope and thrive by facing her fears and reclaiming power from her bully.
Including a foreword by the founder of the The Ophelia Project, as well as helpful tips, discussion questions, and additional resources, My Secret Bully is a vital resource for children, parents, teachers, and counselors.
Katie is my secret bully.
A lot of people would be surprised to know this because they think she's my friend. And she does act like my friend...sometimes.
But lately, I'm not so sure.
Katie and I have known each other since kindergarten. We've spent a lot of time together because we like doing the same kinds of things: making perfumes with flowers picked from my yard, playing soccer in the rain, sharing secrets, and spying on our bossy, know-it-all brothers.
I love being around Katie when she's nice to me. But there are times when she's not. She can be just plain mean.
Review, School Library Journal: “This . . . bibliotherapeutic offering tackles the difficult topic of bullying, . . . [L]ibraries may want to purchase it because of the scarcity of material on this very important issue.”
Rachel Simmons, author of Odd Girl Out: “Too few resources are available to families dealing with girl bullying. MY SECRET BULLY provides an important resource to help parents.”
Dr. Kathy Masarie, founder and director of FULL ESTEEM AHEAD: “A must-read for any child who has ever been teased, ignored, or excluded by his/her peers. . . . A very useful resource for addressing social cruelty among children.”
Theresa Markowitz, Ph.D., Clinical Psychology: "...a desperately needed tool to help parents, techers, and other professionals address the growing epidemic of relational aggression (emotional bullying)."
Here is the all-too-familiar story of Monica. She and Katie have been friends since kindergarten. Monica loves being around her when she's nice. But there are times when Katie can be just plain mean. And Monica doesn't understand why.
Monica is a target of relational aggression, emotional bullying among friends who will use name-calling and manipulation to humiliate and exclude. But with a little help from a supportive adult—her mother—Monica learns to cope and thrive by facing her fears and reclaiming power from her bully.
Including a foreword by the founder of the The Ophelia Project, as well as helpful tips, discussion questions, and additional resources, My Secret Bully is a vital resource for children, parents, teachers, and counselors.
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Katie is my secret bully.
A lot of people would be surprised to know this because they think she's my friend. And she does act like my friend...sometimes.
But lately, I'm not so sure.
Katie and I have known each other since kindergarten. We've spent a lot of time together because we like doing the same kinds of things: making perfumes with flowers picked from my yard, playing soccer in the rain, sharing secrets, and spying on our bossy, know-it-all brothers.
I love being around Katie when she's nice to me. But there are times when she's not. She can be just plain mean.
Review, School Library Journal: “This . . . bibliotherapeutic offering tackles the difficult topic of bullying, . . . [L]ibraries may want to purchase it because of the scarcity of material on this very important issue.”
Rachel Simmons, author of Odd Girl Out: “Too few resources are available to families dealing with girl bullying. MY SECRET BULLY provides an important resource to help parents.”
Dr. Kathy Masarie, founder and director of FULL ESTEEM AHEAD: “A must-read for any child who has ever been teased, ignored, or excluded by his/her peers. . . . A very useful resource for addressing social cruelty among children.”
Theresa Markowitz, Ph.D., Clinical Psychology: "...a desperately needed tool to help parents, techers, and other professionals address the growing epidemic of relational aggression (emotional bullying)."
