Every Woman's Battle

Discovering God's Plan for Sexual and Emotional Fulfillment

Afterword by Stephen Arterburn
$13.99 US
PRH Christian Publishing | WaterBrook
On sale May 06, 2008 | 9780307446152
Sales rights: World

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When does an affair begin? Not with the first forbidden touch…but with the first forbidden thought. Unexpectedly, you find yourself enjoying a powerful emotional bond with another man. You feel like you matter to someone again. And the door you thought was locked so firmly–the door to sexual infidelity–is suddenly ajar.

The only way women can survive the intense struggle for sexual integrity is by guarding not just your body, but your mind and heart as well. Every Woman’s Battle can help you learn to do that. Using real-life stories and examples from her own struggle, Shannon Ethridge helps women like you–whether married, engaged, or planning to marry someday.
  • FINALIST | 2004
    Christian Retailing's Best Awards
Introduction

One day my husband, Greg, brought home the book Every Man’s Battle, tossed it at me, and with a straight face said, “I think you ought to write Every Woman’s Battle.

My immediate response was, “Yeah, right!” Not that I didn’t feel qualified to write such a book (having graduated from the school of hard knocks when it comes to recognizing and overcoming sexual and emotional temptations), but I had already been trying to publish a manuscript on these exact issues for over a year. Time after time I heard publishers say, “Women don’t deal with sexual issues enough that a book on that topic would really sell.”

Meanwhile, Every Man’s Battle was climbing to the top of the best-seller list. I wondered how people could be so naive as to think that sexual integrity is strictly a man’s issue. Both men and women were created by God as sexual beings, weren’t they? It takes two to tango, and for every man who falls prey to sexual temptation, there is a woman falling with him. While many men limit their affairs to what they take in lustfully through their eyes, women also submit longingly to mental fantasies or emotional affairs.

Some compare their husbands to other men and become disillusioned by their husbands’ failure to measure up. So many of us fail to recognize how we compromise our sexual integrity, how we rob ourselves of what we long for most—true intimacy and fulfillment.

Curious as to why my husband felt so strongly about Every Man’s Battle, I read it through voraciously. I kept thinking, Many of these issues are not common just to men, but to women also! They simply manifest themselves differently!

Stephen Arterburn was hearing the exact same thing from so many women that he believed the need was undeniable. Little did I know that within a few months God would, in fact, divinely bring Steve and me together on this project (thanks to my friends Ron and Katie Luce, our literary agents at Alive Communications, and the visionaries at WaterBrook Press).

So take heart and know that your cries for help have been heard. This book is a training manual that will help you avoid sexual and emotional compromise and will show you how to experience God’s plan for sexual and emotional fulfillment. I also wrote a comprehensive workbook to accompany Every Woman’s Battle. It will help you learn more about what God has to say on this subject and will help you examine your own personal life so you can develop a practical plan for victory in your own unique battle for sexual and emotional integrity.

Do you want to be a woman of sexual and emotional integrity? With God’s help you can. Let’s get started.
“This book sheds light on the often unspoken sensitivities and issues that women wrestle with. Not only is it well written, it is liberating and refreshing with sound principles for overcoming the things that threaten to keep us from experiencing the fullness of joy that is part of God’s big-picture plan for our lives.”
—MICHELLE MCKINNEY HAMMOND, author of Get Over It and On With It

“In today’s permissive culture, it is dangerously easy for even the most principled of women to reason away unhealthy thoughts, attitudes, and flirtations with men who aren’t our husbands. In Every Woman’s Battle, Shannon Ethridge bravely and respectfully draws a line in the sand for all of us. A must-read for every woman who desires true intimacy and sexual integrity.”
—CONSTANCE RHODES, author of Life Inside the “Thin” Cage

“There is a common, almost Victorian, myth that women don’t really struggle with sexual sin. That myth causes many women to feel a double-shame. The shame of struggling sexually is compounded by the assumption that few, if any, women share the same battle. Shannon Ethridge artfully and boldly unveils the war and offers women a way to enter the battle with courage, hope, and grace. Every Woman’s Battle will help both men and women comprehend the glorious beauty and sensuality of holiness. This is a desperately needed book.”
—Dr. DAN B. ALLENDER, president of Mars Hill Graduate School and author of The Healing Path

“If you’re like me, you want the deepest connection possible with your husband. You want a soul-to-soul connection that is not encumbered by anything that could damage it. And if you’re like me, you are going to find Shannon’s book immeasurably helpful in doing just that. Every Woman’s Battle is the best resource I know for embracing God’s plan of sexual and emotional integrity as a woman.”
—LESLIE PARROTT, author of When Bad Things Happen to Good Marriages

“A powerful shield for every woman. Shannon’s words are convicting, challenging, and confronting.”
—DR. TIM CLINTON, president of the American Association of Christian Counselors

“Many of my Bad Girls of the Bible readers have tearfully confessed to me their struggles with sexual sins—promiscuity, adultery, and self-gratification among them. Since we cannot pretend Christian women don’t face these temptations, it’s a relief to have a sound resource like this one to recommend. Shannon Ethridge’s straightforward, nonjudgmental, step-by-step approach can help women come
clean in the best way possible—through an intimate relationship with the Lover of their souls.”
—LIZ CURTIS HIGGS, best-selling author of Bad Girls of the Bible, Really Bad Girls of the Bible, and Mad Mary: A Bad Girl from Magdala

“It’s time to take the blinders off and recognize the crucial message of Every Woman’s Battle.
—KAREN KINGSBURY, best-selling author of Remember and One Tuesday Morning

About

When does an affair begin? Not with the first forbidden touch…but with the first forbidden thought. Unexpectedly, you find yourself enjoying a powerful emotional bond with another man. You feel like you matter to someone again. And the door you thought was locked so firmly–the door to sexual infidelity–is suddenly ajar.

The only way women can survive the intense struggle for sexual integrity is by guarding not just your body, but your mind and heart as well. Every Woman’s Battle can help you learn to do that. Using real-life stories and examples from her own struggle, Shannon Ethridge helps women like you–whether married, engaged, or planning to marry someday.

Awards

  • FINALIST | 2004
    Christian Retailing's Best Awards

Excerpt

Introduction

One day my husband, Greg, brought home the book Every Man’s Battle, tossed it at me, and with a straight face said, “I think you ought to write Every Woman’s Battle.

My immediate response was, “Yeah, right!” Not that I didn’t feel qualified to write such a book (having graduated from the school of hard knocks when it comes to recognizing and overcoming sexual and emotional temptations), but I had already been trying to publish a manuscript on these exact issues for over a year. Time after time I heard publishers say, “Women don’t deal with sexual issues enough that a book on that topic would really sell.”

Meanwhile, Every Man’s Battle was climbing to the top of the best-seller list. I wondered how people could be so naive as to think that sexual integrity is strictly a man’s issue. Both men and women were created by God as sexual beings, weren’t they? It takes two to tango, and for every man who falls prey to sexual temptation, there is a woman falling with him. While many men limit their affairs to what they take in lustfully through their eyes, women also submit longingly to mental fantasies or emotional affairs.

Some compare their husbands to other men and become disillusioned by their husbands’ failure to measure up. So many of us fail to recognize how we compromise our sexual integrity, how we rob ourselves of what we long for most—true intimacy and fulfillment.

Curious as to why my husband felt so strongly about Every Man’s Battle, I read it through voraciously. I kept thinking, Many of these issues are not common just to men, but to women also! They simply manifest themselves differently!

Stephen Arterburn was hearing the exact same thing from so many women that he believed the need was undeniable. Little did I know that within a few months God would, in fact, divinely bring Steve and me together on this project (thanks to my friends Ron and Katie Luce, our literary agents at Alive Communications, and the visionaries at WaterBrook Press).

So take heart and know that your cries for help have been heard. This book is a training manual that will help you avoid sexual and emotional compromise and will show you how to experience God’s plan for sexual and emotional fulfillment. I also wrote a comprehensive workbook to accompany Every Woman’s Battle. It will help you learn more about what God has to say on this subject and will help you examine your own personal life so you can develop a practical plan for victory in your own unique battle for sexual and emotional integrity.

Do you want to be a woman of sexual and emotional integrity? With God’s help you can. Let’s get started.

Praise

“This book sheds light on the often unspoken sensitivities and issues that women wrestle with. Not only is it well written, it is liberating and refreshing with sound principles for overcoming the things that threaten to keep us from experiencing the fullness of joy that is part of God’s big-picture plan for our lives.”
—MICHELLE MCKINNEY HAMMOND, author of Get Over It and On With It

“In today’s permissive culture, it is dangerously easy for even the most principled of women to reason away unhealthy thoughts, attitudes, and flirtations with men who aren’t our husbands. In Every Woman’s Battle, Shannon Ethridge bravely and respectfully draws a line in the sand for all of us. A must-read for every woman who desires true intimacy and sexual integrity.”
—CONSTANCE RHODES, author of Life Inside the “Thin” Cage

“There is a common, almost Victorian, myth that women don’t really struggle with sexual sin. That myth causes many women to feel a double-shame. The shame of struggling sexually is compounded by the assumption that few, if any, women share the same battle. Shannon Ethridge artfully and boldly unveils the war and offers women a way to enter the battle with courage, hope, and grace. Every Woman’s Battle will help both men and women comprehend the glorious beauty and sensuality of holiness. This is a desperately needed book.”
—Dr. DAN B. ALLENDER, president of Mars Hill Graduate School and author of The Healing Path

“If you’re like me, you want the deepest connection possible with your husband. You want a soul-to-soul connection that is not encumbered by anything that could damage it. And if you’re like me, you are going to find Shannon’s book immeasurably helpful in doing just that. Every Woman’s Battle is the best resource I know for embracing God’s plan of sexual and emotional integrity as a woman.”
—LESLIE PARROTT, author of When Bad Things Happen to Good Marriages

“A powerful shield for every woman. Shannon’s words are convicting, challenging, and confronting.”
—DR. TIM CLINTON, president of the American Association of Christian Counselors

“Many of my Bad Girls of the Bible readers have tearfully confessed to me their struggles with sexual sins—promiscuity, adultery, and self-gratification among them. Since we cannot pretend Christian women don’t face these temptations, it’s a relief to have a sound resource like this one to recommend. Shannon Ethridge’s straightforward, nonjudgmental, step-by-step approach can help women come
clean in the best way possible—through an intimate relationship with the Lover of their souls.”
—LIZ CURTIS HIGGS, best-selling author of Bad Girls of the Bible, Really Bad Girls of the Bible, and Mad Mary: A Bad Girl from Magdala

“It’s time to take the blinders off and recognize the crucial message of Every Woman’s Battle.
—KAREN KINGSBURY, best-selling author of Remember and One Tuesday Morning